Getting Help for Yourself

I recently spoke to a sex addict's spouse who has endured more than 20 years of covering up her husband's behavior. As a "good Christian" she tried to be submissive, respectful and supportive. This behavior, of course, supported was his addiction.

He spend thousands of dollars on anonymous "phone sex." He is alienated from his children and grand children. He has lost jobs and lost friends and church leadership positions. But still she enabled his behavior in order to be "loving". That is not love.

The wife and children have been devastated. She, and the children offered support, love and prayers. He tried to stop. They needed good counseling not more fruitless interactions.

We help churches and counselors provide:

1. Protection and prevention for children, youth and adults through education and training.
2. Education for pastors, friends and family members about the signs of sexual addiction.
3. Ways the addict can get help from pastors and lay helpers.
4. Treatment for addicts.
5. Support for the family members. Most of their children become alienated from the church because the addict seems so religious to cover up his addiction.
6. Healing for the victims of sexual abuse.
7. Ways to intervene in sexual problems of elders, pastors and members.

Bill Clinton discovered that hiding makes things worse. Come to the light.